If you’re looking to manifest change to get a happy marriage or relationship, you’ve come to the right place! It’s not always easy to manifest change. You might be feeling a little stuck or unsure where to start.

Maybe you’ve been trying to manifest a happier relationship for months and nothing has worked—or maybe you’ve been at it for years and things are getting worse so you’ve given up.

Well, I want to start by saying: you are not alone in this process. I promise.
As women, we all deserve love and support, and when we don’t get that, it’s frustrating and our feelings get hurt. Learning to take responsibility for the change you want to manifest is a powerful first step to getting what you want!



What is Manifestation

Manifestation is the idea that you can turn something from a belief into a reality. I know – hold your giggles. It does sound silly – like “I want a ham sandwich”. And pouf a ham sandwich magically appears.

If you’ve read anything about the Law of Attraction or heard of the book ”The Secret” you can find loads of info out there about what manifesting is and how to do it.
Here I’ll speak exclusively about how to use manifest change in relationships.

How to use Manifestation in Relationships

When I work with clients in my coaching practice one of the first questions I ask them is what their vision for their relationship or marriage.

1.  What are you looking to achieve that you don’t have now?

2.  How will you feel once you get there?

3.  How do you want to show up once you arrive?

Usually, clients don’t have a vision of what they do want, because they are focused on what they don’t want.

They don’t want more uncertainty. More pain. More disappointment. More failure.

Manifestating Change Goal #1

To manifest your ideal relationship, you need to know what you want. Spend time developing your vision for what you do want and leave the don’t out of it.

I know, that’s scary. How to ensure you get what you want, but not what you don’t want.

Hang on I’ll explain why this is an essential step below.


Manifestating Change Goal #2

To manifest change in your relationship, you need to be specific. The who, what, where details of your vision need to be developed. Indulge yourself in creating a list of things that would make you happy.

For example, dating with the promise of marriage and starting a family. A successful second marriage that blends two families together seamlessly. Remaining married and turning a distant marriage into one that is connected.

You get the idea!


Manifestating Change Goal #3

Now that you’ve got your vision nailed down. Be careful where you point your manifestor!

As I mentioned in introducing what is manifestation – its turning beliefs into reality. So, if your vision contains an “I don’t want to date or marry people who aren’t serious”. . . 

Be careful! You might get more of what you don’t want, because you pointed you manifestor toward a negative. See how powerful you are!


Manifestating Change Goal #4

Now that you’ve got your vision and your manifestor pointed toward positive pursuits you are ready to take the next step. So, what is the next step on your way to manifesting your ideal relationship or marriage?

Finding positive evidence. Here is where the rubber meets the road. You now are tasked with going out and taking a look for things you are positively manifesting.
This could be only going on only one date with that guy who didn’t pick up the check and lives with his mother. Instead of several dates.

Seeing that your husband did talk to you today briefly. Before he spent the night cuddled up on the couch with the dog, instead of you, while he watches TV.


Manifestating Change Goal #5

I know you are asking. Are you expecting me to look at these circumstances as positive when I still didn’t land my dream guy on my first date? Or I haven’t gotten an “I love you” from my husband in years.

In fact, I am. You have to start somewhere in learning how to use your manifestor now that you have it actively turned on. Even though these may not be the changes you want to see in your relationship immediately.

Realize you are not going to be a perfect manifestor out of the gate. But if you start focusing on the positive, leaving out the negative, you are doing it correctly.
And most importantly, you need to believe in you and your power to bring thoughts into reality for yourself.

If you don’t like what you are attracting go back and refine your vision. This is the process of perfecting your manifesting.


Proof you Already Were a Powerful Manifestor

I know I’ve been referring to you as a powerful manifestor throughout this post. How could I possibly know this about you?

Because you’ve been manifesting good things in your life for a long time now. (And I hope not too many bad things).

In the past you might have called this “luck”, “coincidences”, or “accidents”. I think not.
You’ve just been doing it unconsciously without a vision. So, when good things happened, they were good. When bad things happened they were bad.


What to do Next to Manifest Your Dream Relationship

Now you have the knowledge of why you need a vision to manifest change in your relationship. Beliefs will turn into reality.

How has it been serving you to think you had no control over it this whole time?

I remember one New Year’s Day. I scribbled down my goals for the year.

I put down that I wanted to date with the purpose of finding a person to love, who would ask to marry me. I also wrote down I wanted fall in love fearlessly.

Guess who I met three months later. My husband.

A coincidence or my focusing my vision on what I wanted and looking for the positive evidence.

In other year’s when I’ve struggled in my marriage, I focused on what I didn’t want.
To stop arguing. To not feel alone. To not be a wife with no control over her marriage.
Guess what I got in those situations. More negative experiences. 

See what you focus on increases in manifesting and life. Don’t miss that!

Now I know I have control over more things than I thought. Not control over others, just myself and my thoughts. 

My hope is that you experiment with developing your vision and the positive changes you want to manifest in your relationship or marriage. 

If you are brave, find a coach that can support you and your vision. Coaching you to that vision, removing blind spots, while standing for your greatness! You can manifest change in your relationship.

Take care of you!